Give it your all before leaving

Actively trying to better the relationship – such as working on breaking unhealthy habits or trying couples therapy –before you end it for good can help you avoid “could haves” and “should haves” that you might dwell on down the line. “Knowing that you gave it your all to improve the relationship and it did not work will allow you to heal faster,” says Ana De la Cruz, LMFT, relationship therapist at Choosing Therapy.

Know that it will hurt

There’s no need to sugar coat it: breakups are hard, so you should keep in mind that it’s absolutely normal to feel pain during this process. While this is scary, it shouldn’t be a reason to go back on your decision to break up. “Breaking up with someone you love is probably the hardest decision of your life. You might feel that you are literally pulling a piece of your heart out,” says De la Cruz.

Know your “why” and stand your ground

Having a clear reason (or reasons) why the relationship needs to end can help you stand your ground throughout the breakup process, says De la Cruz. This way, you can be prepared if your partner tries to convince you to change your mind. Stay strong and remember exactly why the relationship isn’t working out for you. Tune into the logical side of your brain rather than getting overtaken by emotion.

Don’t try to be friends right away

Taking time apart and temporarily cutting contact can help you heal post-breakup. Know that it’s okay that you and your ex won’t be friends right away. “Trying to jump into a friendship right away will just be confusing and painful. It’s possible to be friends down the road, but only once both parties have processed the breakup and moved on,” says Ashera DeRosa, LMFT, relationship therapist at Whole Stories Therapy.  Source: Business Insider